Asking R U OK? every day

R U OK? Day, Thursday 9 September, presents an opportunity to stop and ask ourselves, our colleagues and our loved ones ‘R U OK?’.

When life gets busy, it is easy to forget to stop and check-in. Asking the question gives us a chance to connect with others in a time where we may be physically apart.

It’s also a great reminder that, in times like these, we should be checking in with each other regularly. Asking R U OK? every day is not only about checking in our mental health and wellbeing, but it is an opportunity to connect and engage with each other.

Sometimes, it can be tricky to start the conversation – here are some tips on how to start.

Listen with an open mind

It is important to approach these conversations with an open mind and acknowledge that things can be tough.

Encourage the person you are talking to by using prompts such as “how are you feeling about that?” or “how long have you felt that way?”. It can be helpful to show that you’ve listened by repeating back what you have heard in your own words and ask if you have understood them properly.

Encourage action

If you find that the person you have been talking to has been feeling down for a long period of time, encourage them to see a health professional. Speaking positively about seeking professional advice may help them feel more open to the idea. Some prompts you could use include:

  • “What is something you can do for yourself right now? Something enjoyable or relaxing?”
  • “When I was going through a tough time, I tried this…you might find it useful too.”
  • “It might be useful to link in with someone who can support you.”


Remember to check in regularly. Staying in touch and showing genuine care can make a real difference.

For more tips and resources, you can visit the R U OK? Day website.

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